I love creating, expressing myself in a creative way, though I am hindered by some fear inside of my own mind. I know I have potential to do something very creative that can blow away the minds of the crowd, but I cage myself in and let myself become scared of performing in front of people. This old fear of stage fright from my early childhood days has severely inhibited my growth and ability to develop confidence in my own presentation skills.
This is terribly inconvenient because I have habituated to always start battling with myself whenever I need to present or even stand up in front of a crowd. A horrible feeling, really… it’s like you’re killing yourself before you even stand on the execution table. You knock yourself down with all these visions of failure and worst case scenarios so much so that it starts showing in your physical state via sweating and shaking and freezing up.
Maybe I have some mental problems? haha, it might be so. I’ve cried as a kid whenever I had to present. The teacher even had to excuse me from presenting because of that… and that made me feel even worse because I felt isolated and different from the ‘normal’ kids that could do it. So then I cursed myself for being so weak and that made me cry even more…. and so the cycle continues… really counterproductive I say… but I did not have a positive attitude about myself as a kid… did not take criticism too well and was really sensitive because of that. I cried a lot and was nicknamed ‘crybaby’ or ‘mute’ because I couldn’t present ‘normally’… this made me not feel motivated to even begin preparing for a presentation at all… see how much an elementary classroom environment can damage a person’s confidence early on? sigh…
But I’ve grown since then… I’ve fought battles internally… by myself… I’ve tried to overcome this wall that was built from my childhood days.. before middle school, I’ve come to the realization that I can’t live like this forever… not all my future teachers will be as forgiving to my disabled presenting disposition as in elementary school… I even thought how can someone like me survive in this society if I can’t even stand up in front of a crowd without shaking and crying… I can’t live like this… this isn’t me at all…
This thought really got to me… so I challenged myself in grade 6 to present something… anything really, as long as I was passionate about it… and I thought ‘hey, this is the year of the chinese zodiac that everyone in this class was born under! Maybe I can introduce that to the class… people should be interested in something they can relate to, right?”…. and so I prepared… I made my own speech… I’ve even come up with games for the class to participate in and they even got candy for winning the little games I prepared…I had red pockets for people and clever questions to ask the class to see if they heard me…everything was well-thought out and planned…
But the only thing that hindered me was the fear… the shaking… my paralyzed stiff body… my little voice that couldn’t get out when I stood in front of people… it ruined my confidence… my performance… but surprisingly…people still clapped warmly for my effort… they saw me actually trying to overcome something… even if they couldn’t really understand my internal struggle. It was enough to soothe my heart… the accomplishment of such a feat… of facing my fear head-on relieved me… very much so, that from then on, I tried my best to continue to improve…
My voice got louder throughout middle school (once, the teacher even had to scold me for being loud and my classmates were surprised that it was someone like me that was so talkative…they never knew I could be so talkative because they never got to know me… they didn’t even try to talk to me much and just assumed that I was quiet and ‘mute’)… my fear grew smaller as I got more practice with presenting and trying to talk to more people… I met other people that faced similar challenges as me too.. and that helped me see that I’m not the only one struggling… that I’m not as alone as I thought… (this was comforting to someone whose small world consisted of only elementary school classmates and family everyday)
Present day, the fear is still there but I’ve come to accept it for what it is and not as something to stop me from presenting… I will still do it if I have to… because I’ve learnt that facing the fear head-on is what helps tear it down bit by bit… it’s like challenging something with the fact that you even tried to challenge it, is what makes you a winner already.
One day, I hope this fear becomes something fun for me to challenge… meaning I hope that one day I will come to look forward to facing this fear and present something unbelievably amazing that will astonish even my past elementary bullies. I want to make them not believe that someone like me…. some quiet, shy, mute girl that they labelled casually…. turned into something completely opposite to what they expected. I want to believe that I can do things that can astonish people into awe.
Indirectly, I have actually done so, many times with my early childhood art and university essay writing and amazingly, I’ve even managed to surprise myself with one presentation where I confidently presented an amazing interview to the class with passion and ended it with a good ‘bang’. (the topic motivated me because it was about introducing a friend in class and I met this amazing classmate that was actually an olympian figure skater in my own class! I just felt that I had to do something amazing for that person because she was worth the effort… haha) The way I structured that presentation was just inspiring to me because it made me feel like I can actually perform something amazing with total confidence; if I really wanted to and was motivated enough to do…haha, I liked it when I impacted my audience… that feeling that I’ve actually captured my audience’s attention and moved them in some way was breathtaking for someone like me… it might even become addicting if I ever get another chance to do something like that again.
I love creating things… at first it was drawing… I strived to improve myself to amaze even more people, then I tried creating well-structured presentations, afterwards I’ve tried building things like lego and puzzle houses (I think I have some affinity with making miniature things… maybe because I have small hands? haha)… now I’m trying to find a voice with my writing…I’m still an amateur so I’m still struggling here….as I’m not as fluent or articulate as I want to be…haha
Though once, I’ve surprised myself in philosophy class by receiving an A for my essay writing skills on my first try. I didn’t think I even wrote it that well, I’ve rushed to finish it in one night after an exam but the ideas were thought out before so that probably made it easier. Afterwards, i thought; “hey… maybe I’m actually not so bad at writing as I thought?”… and this motivated me to do better… to write more… to express myself in as many ways possible, so here I am…. writing random raw things for an anonymous blog that I impulsively created overnight… haha… I want to strive to improve and maybe come closer to my creativity though… so wish me luck! haha
Being creative makes me happy for some reason. The feeling of creating something amazing to astonish people really gets to me… it makes me feel warm and content inside… I love seeing the faces of people’s light up and smile because of something I did… even if they were laughing AT me, not with me… haha, maybe I have a little comedian inside of me that likes to entertain people? who knows… but what i do know is that I should continue to nurture whatever potential I have… even if it’s not much… I don’t want to give up on life… I want to feel like I’m actually doing something… I want to feel alive and impact the world in some way…. whether by something I created or by helping other people or just making someone smile… I want people to know that ‘I’ have actually lived… and that I AM somebody amazing too… not that quiet, shy, low confidence girl you used to know… i want to break free of that shell… and shine like the butterfly I believe that I was meant to be… one day, hopefully